I have been thinking about how sometimes working in unity with someone is so easy. At the same time, working with someone can also be difficult. There are times in my when I have wanted to work in unity with someone and they have been open and willing to work with me in return. We have had a common goal and worked together, sharing our gifts and insights with each other. The experience has been amazing. It reminded me of that feeling of being on a see saw with a friend who would make sure we both went up and down and nobody left the other stuck up in the air. There was a feeling of peace and synchronicity in the process.
However, recently, I was reminded it takes two to work in unity. Both parties must want to work towards a common goal. If one party cuts themselves off then it creates a challenge to work as one body. What I have come to realize is that I may not be able to create a bond of unity with everyone or that it might take time for me to help someone wash away years of loneliness and isolation before they are willing to work with me in unity.
As I think about those I know with whom I struggle to practice unity, I have come to realize that it is because they are always right and I am always wrong. That is not to say that I always have the best solution, because I don’t. However, when I am not open to other solutions and insist that my way is the highway, then I alienate myself from others and make it impossible to achieve the ultimate goal. Conversely, when others think there way is the only way, then it is challenging, if not impossible, for us to reach a common goal.
Maybe this is when the spiritual practice of unity requires me to draw on what I have learned from the practice of seeing this other person as a blessing. As Mark Rosen said, maybe this is time to thank them for being a pain because there is a lesson, or two, in the process. Maybe the lesson is about me and what I need to heal within myself so I can achieve a greater sense of internal unity. Maybe the lesson is to have compassion for those who tell you to get off their seesaw.
So God, can you please help me to understand how I achieve unity with someone who told me to get off their seesaw. Or is it that for now, I practice being in unity that our common goal is to get off the seesaw nicely, without hurting each other in the process. Maybe it is that the unity we achieve is about a different goal, not the one that was originally presented to us.
Thanks as always for helping me figure it out. Well for now.